Sexual health (found 5180 titles)

Taking Charge of Your Fertility, 10th Anniversary Edition: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement, and Reproductive Health

Author: Toni Weschler
Publisher: Harper Paperbacks
Publication date: 2006-11-01
ISBN: 0060881909
Pages: 512
Rating:
Price: $24.99

This comprehensive book explains in lucid, assured terms how to practice the fertility awareness method (FAM), a natural, scientifically proven but little-known form of birth control (which is not to be confused with the woefully ineffective "rhythm" method). Author Toni Weschler has been teaching fertility awareness for almost 20 years, and it's only just now gaining in popularity. As the book explains, by using simple fertility signs including peaks in morning body temperature and changes in cervical position and cervical mucus, it's possible to determine when ovulation is taking place. Fertility awareness is therefore useful for not only couples who are trying to conceive, but for those who are aiming to avoid pregnancy without the use of chemical contraceptives. It will be of special interest to those women who have suffered from infertility; many FAM practitioners have told the author that by filling in the detailed charts in the book, they've realized that they were chronically miscarrying, even when their doctors told them they weren't conceiving at all. As the book explains, by charting body temperature, it's simple to tell when pregnancy has occurred--and when there's danger of miscarriage. Taking Charge of Your Fertility also explains how to choose the sex of your baby by timing intercourse according to certain fertility signs. It also features thorough, easy-to-understand explanations of hormones, the menstrual cycle, and menopause, along with fertility tests and treatments and their long- and short-term side effects, plus a topnotch resource section. Recommended for any woman who wants to better understand her body. --Erica Jorgensen

Customes reviews 1195

Very Informative (2010-03-08)

Great book. It's nice to know that I don't have to use birth control which has way to many side effects. This natural method is pretty low key and in many ways empowering.

Absolutely worked for us, can't recommend enough! (2010-03-01)

I can't recommend this book enough, whether you are trying to conceive or avoid pregnancy. I wish every girl was taught this information growing up. As a woman, you should know what's going on with your body, including what's normal and what's not! This book really does put you in charge.

I read the book in May 2009 and began charting that month, in the hopes of conceiving our first. We charted three cycles and ta-da! We got pregnant in July 2009 and are expecting our daughter in 5 short weeks now. The book and the method it describes have taught me so much and I'm so grateful I found it when I did. Don't wait until you've been trying without success for 6 months to a year. Get this book and give it a try. It can only help you. It certainly changed our lives!

Good luck!

How did I not know this before??? (2010-02-28)

I just finished this book and I have a few thoughts:

1) How was I not taught about fertility? I am a sexually active 38 yo woman with an Ivy league education. I read the NY Times. I Google everything. How did I not know what cervical fluid was and how it related to my own fertility? I am so grateful to the author for the education.

2) The feminist undertones of this book may be off putting to some.

3) The 10th anniversary edition was published in 2006 - 4 years ago. Much has changed. Women I know are indeed freezing their eggs. And vaginal sonograms are the norm.

4) I appreciate the overview of procedures, HOWEVER, please note that an HSG is perhaps the most pain you will ever experience outside of childbirth. I don't know why the author did not mention this in the description. After taking 12 advil and a vicoden before the procedure, i was still screaming bloody murder and worse.

Before you use fertility drugs, read this book!!!!! It works! (2010-02-22)

This was probably the greatest gift I ever received. I read and followed this book's charts for two months after trying to conceive for 2+ years. I thought I knew everything I needed to and was exhausted of hoping. I had already filled a prescription for the fertility drug Clomid & was waiting for my next cycle to start to take it. Well, I was already pregnant!!!! This book works. I swear I knew the day I conceived but still wasn't convinced---I am now!!!!!

Very informative (2010-02-21)

I purchased this book because I wanted to be proactive in trying to become pregnant. This book is so helpful and informative! I finally have a better understanding of my cycle and Basal Body Temperature charting!

Oral Sex He'll Never Forget: 52 Positions and Techniques Guaranteed to Blow Your Man Away

Author: Sonia Borg Ph.D.
Publisher: Quiver
Publication date: 2009-11-01
ISBN: 1592333850
Pages: 144
Rating:
Price: $19.99

Customes reviews 8

Sexy cover but NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!! (2010-03-06)

ANOTHER book about oral sex tips that are "guaranteed" to blow "your man" away??!?!?! HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!

I am a sex educator so I am all about wanting people to have better sex. But this is not the book for this. It reads like one big giant women's magazine article. Go faster. Slower. Use this hand position.

As a sex educator, I find that what people really need is less "tongue here, hand there" (though yes, some of that is good) and more about how they get their desire back, how they can learn to love oral sex even if it's not fun for them at first, how they can communicate with their partner about what type of sex THEY want and not the same old routine over and over again.

I teach adults how to have better sex. If there are workshops in your city, go to one! If not, my favorite sex book on the planet is called Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction. It has WONDERFUL oral sex tips, great info on how to buy sex toys and use them, how to choose lubricants and put them to sexy use alone or with your partner, how to change up missionary or woman on top so they are better than you ever thought possible, how to learn to love the taste of your partner's body, how to get all your 5 senses in on sex and all kinds of things that I regularly talk about when I run my own sexual pleasure workshops. Plus Because It Feels Good is written by a famous sex educator/researcher who has a PhD in this sexual health stuff (really!) and I trust her work more than I trust some of these "guaranteed to drive him wild" kind of books, if you know what I mean.

For oral sex tips on women, I like She Comes First - it has diagrams for teaching men how to go down on women, what is where, all the parts of the clitoris, etc and is written by a sex educator.

Amazing Book....It's a MUST to all ladies out there!!!!! (2010-02-22)

The book is amazing as it details not only the best ways to give a man a BJ, but also illustrates how man's anatomy work...there is so much good information!!! I became more confident with BJs after I read the book. My husband is totally having a blast, he can't get enough of me!!!! I can't wait to get Dr. Sonia's new book about Oral Sex for women. I totally recommend her books and workshops!!!

A must read for every couple! (2010-02-18)

We thought this book was insightfully instructive while complimenting the Body's desires with clarity of Human nature for pleasures.

Happy Endings (2010-02-16)

I met Dr. Sonia Borg a couple of years ago when she gave a workshop on having a "sex positive" attitude and how to give "o" mazing b.j.'s. All the ladies in our class loved her! She presents the info in a way that's fun and playful. If you can't take a class from her in person, read the book! It's full of all her tips and tricks to help you communicate with your partner, increase intimacy, and have more fun in the bedroom.

Wow! Great book... (2010-02-14)

I wanted to learn some new techniques to really surprise my husband so I purchased this book. When I first received the book, I scanned through the pages to see the photos. I was very pleased that all the photos and drawings were done in good taste, so thats when I started reading. The techniques and suggestions has really enhanced my skills on how to effectively seduce and satisfy my sweetie with a heart stopping BJ. The cover for the book is really nice but it was a little difficult hiding it in my bedside library so I purchased a .99 cents cloth book cover from Office Max. Great book, I would recommend to others.

She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

Author: Ian Kerner
Publisher: Harper Paperbacks
Publication date: 2009-02-01
ISBN: 0060538260
Pages: 240
Rating:
Price: $15.99

"When it comes to pleasuring women and conversing in the language of love, cunnilingus should be every man's native tongue," writes clinical sexologist Ian Kerner, Ph.D. in She Comes First, a straightforward, intimate, and exuberant guide to cunnilingus. Kerner first explored "the oral caress" as a way of compensating for his "sexual inadequacies," and quickly learned that women not only welcomed but often preferred "the way of the tongue," reaching orgasm more consistently than through intercourse. Kerner educates readers about the clitoris, "the powerhouse of pleasure," with 18 parts and 8,000 nerve endings (twice as many as the penis) and describes female sexual response from "foreplay" through "coreplay" to "moreplay." A large part of the book is a graphic, detailed primer on "mouth music," including best positions, step-by-step techniques (illustrated), and tips for tongue and fingers. How long should this last? Until the woman has an orgasm or many, says Kerner, and "melts blissfully before your eyes." "The vast majority of women complain about guys who don't like to do it, don't know how to do it, or simply don't do it nearly enough," writes Kerner. This book will change that. Women: Buy it for your partner! --Joan Price

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I think she liked it. (2010-03-12)

I guess my wife should be writing this review since she has greatly benefited from me reading this book. We went to Las Vegas shortly after I read this book, without any children, and I was able to put into good use some of the things I read in the book. Let me tell you. She had many orgasms. And in turn she made me feel very good. I would recommend this book greatly for anybody wanting to spice up things in the bedroom

Great info - fun to read! (2010-03-06)

As a sex educator, this is one of my favorite books to recommend to men who want to learn to please their girlfriends or wives. It's chock full of info on pleasing women through oral sex. It also has good information about learning about women's genitals, becoming comfortable and accepting of whatever women do with their pubic hair and more. Definitely a good read (and short!).

Good Information and a gives you a great Foundation (2010-02-03)

The beginning of this book is a little slow. It's basically a warm-up to get you to start thinking in the right way about going down on your woman and that the focus is all on her. Not a bad thing but than again I obviously care about my wife and pleasing her if I bought a book about pleasing your woman. Anyways, once the book really starts getting into the actual anatomy about the vagina is where the good stuff is. From there on is all great information that a man should know and practice. The author is a man which I was skeptical about but he is knowledgeable. I'm sure he has plenty of practice too in which practice makes perfect. So all I can say is that it's worth it because my wife definitely felt a difference and told me I improved a lot.

Do it your way don't read books (2010-01-14)

This isn't the book that you should pay for. This book is full of references to other books and doesn't really guide you to the point.

Mostly simply praises cunalingus (2009-09-24)

I have to admit I didn't finish it, but after at least half of the book seemed to be simply the author's opinion about how great it is in quasi poetic terms, I just got sick of reading it. I think he could have done away with all of that talk by assuming that if someone bought his book, they obviously found and/or sought value in it. I waited for him to get to the point but got bored before he ever got there.

Mastering Multiple Position Sex: Mind-Blowing Lovemaking Techniques That Create Unforgettable Orgasms

Author: Eric M Garrison MAEd MSc DLSHTM
Publisher: Quiver
Publication date: 2009-09-01
ISBN: 1592333869
Pages: 192
Rating:
Price: $19.99

Customes reviews 7

A healthy, informative, and fun read! (2010-02-11)

As a college student in a young relationship, talking about sex and initiating new positions can be uncomfortable; however, Eric Garrison has the uncanny ability to make readers feel comfortable exploring their bodies and experimenting with sex in new ways. By using clever metaphors, tasteful language and pictures, Garrison has created a fun, easy-to-read manual that readers can relate to. The book is devoted to both his AND her pleasure, which makes it a great read for couples. Garrison also incorporates difficulty ratings, safety information, and advice that help couples work their way up to more challenging positions. My most favorite thing about the book: the advice is healthy and real. The author acknowledges that mistakes happen and encourages readers to laugh them off and try again--practice makes perfect, and you'll enjoy a whole lot of fun along the way!

Not What We Were Looking For (2010-02-09)

This book is about:
Sex Positions
Pictures
Sex Positions that always stroke the man's penis, but the sex positions rarely satisfy a female.

This book is NOT about:
Love-Making
Getting a female to like/want you.

IMHO, the recipe for sex is: get a girl to love you, then she'll go to bed with you. Most guys don't care if she is right-side up or up-side down during sex. Men are easy going, not picky, and easy to please.

More focus in this book should've been on how to love a woman to your bed, into your bed. If she's relationally into you, she'll be turned on, want you to please her, and you'll get pleased. Love her, take care of her, and it takes her mind off of daily responsibilities/worries, and she sees what a fantastic guy you are for taking care of her worries. With no worries on her mind, she is capable of relaxing and physically falling for you. Women make-love to someone they like. Women do not make love to a sex position.

"Mastering Multiple Position Sex: Mind-Blowing Lovemaking Techniques..." A book written by a man.

I was giving the book every chance. I had never seen another sex help book before and thought I should be open minded. Many of the positions I had done b4 out of boredom, trying to spice things up, so the book was relatable. My husband didn't like the book, thought it didn't have concrete advice. I'm so glad for his common sense. We looked for more sex books and found two very useful books that made a lot more sense.

Sex Machine: A Man's Guide to What Really Pleases a Woman in Bed
Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction

Sex Information With Creativity and Style (and Pictures!) (2010-02-02)

In my college level sexuality classes, my students repeatedly ask me to recommend "a good sex book with pictures". I wanted to find one that had accurate information, a dose of education, and was sensitive about the issues different people have in their relationships. MMPS met all those criteria and more. Eric Garrison's prose is full of metaphors and amusing turns of phrase. In one of his recommendations for position changes he writes, "So let out his dingy before you invite him back to dock safely in your harbor." His words naturally make the person reading the book laugh out loud and want to poke their partner and repeat it.
The photographs are very tasteful, with no below the waist frontal nudity. Everyone has been beautifully airbrushed and glows with health. I would have liked more realistic looking couples of a variety of ages, but I have a feeling the publisher might have disagreed with me.
MMPS is an excellent book for heterosexual couples and singles of all ages who want to bring more grace, style, and imagination into their sexual repertoire. You can read all of the suggestions and details, or just look at the pictures and follow the highlights. It is several steps above the usual sexual position book (that's for sure), and has information that real people will really use to improve their lives. This book is about making genital contact more pleasurable and meaningful. It's a great gift book for newlyweds, anniversaries, or your sweetie for a special occasion.

AASECT minded review (2009-11-23)

Mastering Multiple Position Sex: Mind-Blowing Lovemaking Techniques That Create Unforgettable Orgasms. By Eric Garrison. Quiver, 2009.191 pgs Paperback, $19.99.

Sexuality counselor Eric Garrison's first book, Mastering Multiple Sex Positions, scrumptiously illustrates systematic methods to advance your bedroom experience. While spending years of guiding his clients through healthy integration of their sexual expression, Garrison was in his own process of integration, of sexual expression in this fresh how-to approach for satisfying sex. I opened the bright, royally colored book, taking my page-by-page, sweet time, my mouth slightly ajar. Pictures - the wonderfully arousing pictures - grace each section in explanatory detail. Closing my mouth at the sensation of salivation, I found my way to the couch, content to take my time getting to know the ins and outs of Garrison's work. His voice speaks loudest to the youthful heterosexual couple, which is echoed by the photographs. Garrison individually gauges the difficulty level in his suggestions for bodily intense sexual maneuvers. He also transitionally arranges sexual sequences to allow for optimal time, sensation, and intimacy for couples. In terms of value, the book is a treasure chest of enjoyment for couples looking to update, explore, and experience one another abundantly. Health professionals now have a new, refreshing tool to use in therapy, as well as to be taken home as homework for clients.

Reviewer info.
Charlotte Franklin, new to the book review side of marketing, is a pro sex Marriage & Family therapist, specializing in sexual addiction. She currently works in New York City. An ASSECT member, she is working towards licensure and ASSECT accreditation.

Wonderful book for expanding anyone's sexual knowledge, beginner to advanced (2009-11-13)

This book is terrific. It has a wide range of sex tips and positions for everyone from beginners to advanced lovers. My partners and I have also really enjoyed the way that the author arranges suggested positions as well as transitions between them to make sexual encounters that include experimentation inspired by this book flow well and feel natural. I would recommend this book to anybody interested in learning more about sex, especially in terms of spicing up their erotic life with new takes on old positions as well as some challenging and rewarding new additions. Excellent sex book, a perfect addition to any sexual person's library. A+

Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage, Third Edition

Authors: Ed Wheat, Gaye Wheat
Publisher: Revell
Publication date: 1997-04-01
ISBN: 0800717368
Pages: 288
Rating:
Price: $19.99

For over 20 years, this best-seller has helped couples build fulfilling marriages with medically accurate information and biblical wisdom on sex and relationships.

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Intended For Pleasure by Gaye Wheat (2010-02-22)

I actually bought this book as a bridal gift. It was highly recommended by Pastor Mark Jobe when I attended his conference he spoke on "Singleness". He cautioned it should only be read by someone ready to wed.

Perfect for Newlyweds (2010-02-19)

I'm about to get married in three weeks. When my friend who has been married just under 8 months suggested this book to me, I was skeptical. It didn't look appropriate for someone not yet married. I started reading it and after just a few moments I realized that this author had really hit the mark. I'll still be nervous on my wedding night, but I think I have a much clearer idea of what to expect. My fiance read it, too, and feels assured now that we'll be ok. This would make a great bridal shower gift for any couple, and is also great for couples who have been married for years (so I've been told).

Useless (2010-02-19)

This book was given to me after three years of happy, successful marriage. I suspect now that the motivation stemmed more from a lack of grandchildren than any concern over my sex life with my husband. I ended up tossing it in a box to moulder after the first couple of chapters, and it certainly hasn't hurt my marriage in the least to ignore the so-called advice in it.

I found the text to be utterly useless, and offensive to my intelligence and sense of worth as a woman. The biology section, though dry, was at least relatively factual. I frankly stopped reading when I discovered that the sexual technique section was horribly lacking in information and sadly out of date. There are less than half a dozen possible positions listed, and most of those are just slight variations on plain old Missionary. I don't recommend anyone limit themselves to the stiltedness in these pages. There are MUCH better guides out there.

Don't bother buying this one. It's a waste of money, not to mention time.

Where's the fun? (2010-02-11)

I have only been a Christian for a few years and I'm close to 40, there wasn't too much new info in here for me, as I had a sex life Pre-Christ. I would consider it to be a fairly good resource for virgins and the first wedding night. I liked that Dr. Wheat didn't underestimate the importance of a woman's orgasm.

My main problem with the book is a poor range of activities are suggested. Oral sex isn't even really addressed and even seems to be discouraged as then the woman might not find fulfillment in the sex act. But what about fellatio? I can guarantee you'll have one unhappy husband if you neglect that area. There's so much more to do and so many ways to have fun with your husband, and it's not really outlined in this book. Get an addition to this one, and one that's more up to date.

thorough, honest and Biblical (2010-02-07)

This book is standard for our pre-marital counseling ministry. It is thorough and Biblical. Sometimes, Christian material on this subject lacks honesty and transparency, but this book does not. It covers from first time sexual experience within marriage to later years in life. Excellent material.

It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health (The Family Library)

Authors: Robie H. Harris
Publisher: Candlewick
Publication date: 2009-09-08
ISBN: 0763644846
Pages: 96
Rating:
Price: $12.99

An updated, fifteenth anniversary edition of the definitive book on kids’ sexual health brings this trusted resource into the twenty-first century.

Now offering a brand-new chapter focusing on safe Internet use — one of parents’ key concerns — this universally acclaimed classic by Robie H. Harris and Michael Emberley is a cutting-edge resource for kids, parents, teachers, librarians, and anyone else who cares about the well-being of tweens and teens. Providing accurate and up-to-date answers to nearly every imaginable question, from conception and puberty to birth control and AIDS, IT'S PERFECTLY NORMAL offers young people the information they need — now more than ever — to make responsible decisions and stay healthy.

A NEW YORK TIMES BOOK REVIEW Notable Book of the Year
A BOSTON GLOBE-HORN BOOK Award Winner
An Association of Booksellers for Children Booksellers’ Choice
An American Library Association Notable Children’s Book
Five starred reviews (BOOKLIST, BULLETIN OF THE CENTER FOR CHILDREN'S BOOKS, KIRKUS REVIEWS, PUBLISHERS WEEKLY, SCHOOL LIBRARY JOURNAL)

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A thoroughly engaging presentation of age appropriate sexuality information. (2010-02-26)

This book is now 15 years old, and it is still the best available book of sexuality information for the preteen age group. The information on body parts, puberty, reproduction, birth, diseases, and the emotional swings that accompany adolescence is presented simply and matter-of-factly. There are no photo's. Instead, there are explicit drawings of both internal and external body parts. For entertainment, two cartoon characters, a bird and a bee, give a running commentary on the material on almost every page.

This book is a perfect aid for teaching responsible sexuality to preteens.

The Courage to Heal 4e: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse 20th Anniversary Edition

Authors: Ellen Bass, Laura Davis
Publisher: Harper Paperbacks
Publication date: 2008-11-01
ISBN: 0061284335
Pages: 640
Rating:
Price: $22.99

Come to terms with your past while moving powerfully into the future

The Courage to Heal is an inspiring, comprehensive guide that offers hope and a map of the healing journey to every woman who was sexually abused as a child—and to those who care about her. Although the effects of child sexual abuse are long-term and severe, healing is possible.

Weaving together personal experience with professional knowledge, the authors provide clear explanations, practical suggestions, and support throughout the healing process. Readers will feel recognized and encouraged by hundreds of moving first-person stories drawn from interviews and the authors' extensive work with survivors, both nationally and internationally.

This completely revised and updated 20th anniversary edition continues to provide the compassionate wisdom the book has been famous for, as well as many new features:

• Contemporary research on trauma and the brain
• An overview of powerful new healing tools such as imagery, meditation, and body-centered practices
• Additional stories that reflect an even greater diversity of survivor experiences
• The reassuring accounts of survivors who have been healing for more than twenty years
• The most comprehensive, up-to-date resource guide in the field
• Insights from the authors' decades of experience

Cherished by survivors, and recommended by therapists and institutions everywhere, The Courage to Heal has often been called the bible of healing from child sexual abuse. This new edition will continue to serve as the healing beacon it has always been.

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The Worst Self Help Book EVER (2010-02-20)

This book is one of the worst self help books ever. It was written by individuals with no formal training or credentials, the techniques used create false memories, and it causes more problems than it fixes. Look at the research on false memories conducted by Dr. Elizabeth Loftus. How good will you feel when you accuse someone of sexually abusing you, and then you later discover they did not? Accuse dear old dad and he did not do it? Now your family REALLY loves you! This book has even caused the American Psychiatric Association and the American Psychological Association to develop guidelines for dealing with survivors of childhood sexual abuse, because it created false cases of abuse. There are plenty of research articles out there that show how bad this book really is, so research it before you buy it.

Critique of 20th Anniversary Edition (2010-01-11)

I have just read the 20th anniversary edition of Courage to Heal. As a therapist working the field of mental health for 40 years with a specialty in working with abuse survivors and their PARTNERS, I was stunned to see that the book, while purporting to be an update of the 1988 edition is essentially the same as what was written in 1988 despite the fact that over the past 25 years we have made enormous gains in understanding and treating abuse/trauma from a research and clinical treatment perspective. The general message of the book is that the healing process will be most likely a long process, and focuses on "healing" processes such as writing in a journal, meditation, accepting the abuse as a reality and a brief mention of the value of medication to assist in managing painful and often, at least temporarily, seemingly uncontrollable painful thoughts and emotions. While posing as new, updated knowledge about the healing process about healing from trauma, I was absolutely stunned to discover that there was not one word about the extraordinary new understandings about the effects of abuse/trauma seen later in adult life and methodologies for treating abuse related symptoms. Each of these new therapeutic methods has been extensively researched and shown to lead to extraordinarily more effective methods for treating the after effects of trauma/abuse, shortening the recovery period and producing enduring positive effects. Everything from PTSD symptoms, negative cognitive processes (negative self-thoughts), the effects of distorted memory, the dissociative states as well as many other issues that profoundly impact upon the survivors themselves and their PARTNERS and are the real targets of the healing process received only the barest of recognition and explanation. Earlier complaints by readers that the book was very much overly simplistic and often ultimately left clients feeling discouraged because their situations were invariably more complex will undoubtedly be revisited by contemporary readers. When I have presented this new research and clinical material to participants of my workshops, ongoing groups for PARTNERS and couples in conjoint therapy, to a person, there was a collective sigh of relieve and recognition of the complexity and power of often unconscious processes that make the problems survivors face to seemingly intractable and grueling. The new research and clinical practices address this sense of overwhelm and confusion and have proven to be invaluable. Instead of just saying that their symptoms are not their "fault" this new information makes their sense of helplessness and powerlessness understandable and at the same time offers new hope.
Also, the book does not address the massive amount of research that links abuse/trauma to a whole host of other disorders (besides PTSD) with which survivors must contend including, depression, pervasive anxiety, somatic correlates, and a other psychiatric, emotional and physiological symptoms to name a few, that truly address the utter complexity of the aftermath of abuse in adult life. While paying the obligatory homage to the new brain science that has revolutionized our understandings the section on "Trauma and the Brain" is particularly discouraging in its simplistic explanations.
Finally, perhaps most disconcerting is that the book makes NO mention of the new methods for treating trauma ranging from EMDR (Eye Movement and Desensitization and Reprocessing) procedures, cognitive behavioral approaches (CBT), DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy), especially for those suffering from character disorders such as borderline personality disorder, helpful couples approaches to healing and so on that have been developed and proven to be invaluable to the recovery process. Essentially this version of Courage to Heal throws us, survivors and therapists alike, back more than 30 years into the extremely limited and marginally useful approaches to healing which we now know can potentially lead to even further revictimization survivors related to their internal states. Earlier complaints by therapists and others that the authors are not clinicians and are dealing with issues they don't truly understand is yet again validated.

Can you give negative stars? Black holes, maybe? (2009-12-30)

Read this book years ago, and hated it. Like 'Signifier', I remember taking particular exception to the same comments - that if you felt as if you might have been abused, then you had been. Um...no. Not necessarily. There has to be bit of reality in there somewhere. If you were abused, then you were - and in my experience most people who were abused remember it. There are plenty of reasons why a person may feel bad, and suppressed memories of sexual abuse is only one of them, and not a very common one either. I'm not saying that sexual abuse is not common. To our shame as a society, it is common. But suppressed memories of abuse as a cause of psychological problems is extremely rare - and I'm appalled at a book that says to unhappy people that the presence of a vague feeling that something bad may have happened means that it definitely did. Consider a person with these feelings who was not, in fact, sexually abused. I'm appalled at the effect this belief can have on these vulnerable people, and on the people they then wrongly assume to be their abusers. And as someone wanted to know an earlier reviewer's qualifications - yes, I'm qualified to comment, being a sensible person, a doctor, and an incest survivor. Horrible book. But I found the sexual abuse chapter in Susan Forward's "Toxic Parents" excellent. Read that instead.

Very informative (2009-11-19)

My therapist recommended this book. Once i started reading it i learned alot about myself and gave me answers and explanations to alot of my wonders. The book was like new. no torns, writing or anything of the like. Very Satisfied!!!

a must for healing (2009-10-11)

I am using this book with several clients who have been sexually and emotionally abused as children/teenagers, including a male. This book gently introduces the process of healing and allows difficult assignments to be skipped over. Its a well written book for those who think they are ready to start the healing journey. I highly recommend this book.

The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido: A Couple's Guide

Authors: Michele Weiner Davis
Publisher: Simon & Schuster
Publication date: 2003-12-30
ISBN: 0743227336
Pages: 224
Rating:
Price: $14.00

In contrast to its tabloid title, The Sex-Starved Marriage offers candid and sensible counsel for couples with mismatched libidos. Seasoned sex therapist Michele Weiner-Davis skewers two stereotypes about sex in marriage. First, she jettisons the idea that husbands are hot and wives are not, giving examples of "low-desire" men in her practice. Next, she upends the longstanding model of sexual response and advises readers: "Just do it. Desire is a decision. Once the low-interest partner allows him/herself to be touched and aroused, this will trigger a strong desire to continue being sexual." The strength of her approach to the causes of sexual stalemate lies in her insights about the struggles of both partners. Her suggestions (how to break the ice, how to court your partner, nag busting, and the Hallmark solution) are not gimmicky and are presented as techniques for couples, not individuals. Weakened only by a final chapter--one that discloses too many details about the author’s marriage--this perceptive book will inspire couples to add heat and light to their marriage. --Barbara Mackoff

Customes reviews 43

Thank you Michele Weiner Davis (2010-02-12)

It's scary how well Michele Weiner Davis knows men. This book saved my marriage from the brink of divorce. Before, my wife refused to even talk about sex. And she was MEAN about rejecting me. I felt utterly unloved. She would say all I ever think about is sex, even though I hardly mentioned sex to her out of fear of her wrath. I ordered the book thinking my wife would have nothing to do with it, but that I might pick up some ideas from it. To my absolute suprise, she agreed to read it with me. Mrs. Davis has an amazing ability to communicate with women about sex in a way that my most sincere, thought out words never could, and from page one! However, this book is targeted as much toward sex starved women as it is for sex starved men. I can only attest to how well it works on relationships where the man is sex starved. Anyway, please buy this book. If I can convince anybody to buy this book, it's the least I can do to say thank you to Michele Weiner Davis for what she has done for my relationship.

A must buy even if you don't have problems (2010-02-03)

I highly recommend married couples to read this book, it will help guide your marriage even if you are getting it on a regular. Connection not sex is what I got from the book mainly. Both partners need to understand the needs of each other and enjoy the times they are intimate. I enjoyed it not because I am a man but because I love my wife, value our marriage and the connection that we need to have.

Terrific (2009-10-23)

The Sex Starved Marriage is incredibly enlightning. It provides the key to the lock of so many sexual/relationship problems that couples have. The book is frank and serious as well as thoughtful and kind and one feels that it is addressed directly to the heart of the matters that cause real suffering to the ones we really love, our mates. It applys to the non sex-starved marriages as much as the starved ones too! WELL DONE!

Help for couples lacking sexual energy (2009-01-10)

As a clinical psychologist and sex therapist since 1976, I have read almost every book and most chapters written about sexual desire problems. This book is different because it is written to and for couples, although therapists will gain valuable insight. The author addresses/confronts each (composite) partner separately, giving perspectives for change that can help him or her adopt new ideas about becoming the person and partner he or she wants to be. This is done without pathologizing either the more "highly sexed" partner or the one with the "lagging libido." Couples open to learning how they participate in maintaining a problem can do so without feeling shamed or blamed. They can learn how to claim their own enduring part and learn how to understand their partner's. Problems and solutions are described that will be familiar to anybody who has ever been in a relationship, and certainly every couples' therapist. The subtitle, "Boosting your marriage libido," is definitely not a quick fix, but an opportunity for individuals to actively change their own unhappiness in relationship, with a partner. I have recommended this book to couples, relatives and friends who ask, with excellent feedback.

Best therapeutic book ever read (2008-11-04)

Being trained as a therapist this information was never taught so clearly. This book should be required reading for every therapist in training and couple getting married. It would save many marriages caught in the downward spiral of "my spouse doesn't love me anymore". I have read hundreds of therapeutic and self-help books and this is the only book I would recommend for a marriage in trouble or one wanting to prevent trouble.

The Modern Kama Sutra: The Ultimate Guide to the Secrets of Erotic Pleasure

Authors: Kamini Thomas, Kirk Thomas
Publisher: Da Capo Press
Publication date: 2005-11-16
ISBN: 1569243093
Pages: 176
Rating:
Price: $19.95

The 2,000-year-old Kama Sutra is widely regarded as the most famous work on erotic pleasure ever created. This original new interpretation of the Hindu sex classic features 40 easy-to-follow explicit positions, each beautifully illustrated by stunning color photographs, step-by-step instructions, difficulty ratings, and relevant quotes from the original text. From slow and gentle to fast and intense, the positions fulfill every mood and sexual need, and are designed to heighten pleasure from both a man’s and woman’s perspective. Separate chapters explore the body, senses, mood, foreplay, and oral sex, offering creative ways to bring new levels of eroticism into lovemaking.

A book that couples will want to keep by their bedside tables and refer to again and again, The Modern Kama Sutra is the ultimate book for modern lovers.

Customes reviews 7

Nice modern rendition of the original (2010-02-11)

This is a simple to understand, informative book that has very tasteful, sensual photographs, and nice excerpts from the original Karma Surta. I highly recommend it.

Purchased it for a bridal shower present. (2009-10-04)

Didn't thumb through it. I bought it for a bridal shower present and my cousin really seems to like it. The couple say that it's very interesting and full of tons of positions.

Great fun! (2009-06-10)

A great way to keep the fun going in a 25 year old romance, we just Pick a position a week, and run with it.

Worth the look and the buy (2009-06-01)

I absolutely love this book. 1) It is informative and very easy to understand. 2) It is very descriptive and the pictures that accompany the descriptions really do help. 3) While some may deem it pornographic, obviously you would not give it to a child, it is something about sex that helps in this modern world. I can say this though I cannot wait to really try this and implement it with my partner.

For those who want to make love expertly (2009-05-04)

The Kama Sutra, everyone knows the name - a nearly 2,000 year old Sanskrit text on sexuality and relationships between the sexes. Now, authors Kirk (a journalist and illustrator) and Kamini Thomas (a social psychologist) have taken their knowledge on Eastern Spirituality and used it to bring the Kama Sutra up to date for the modern Westerner.

Now, this book is not merely a book of illustrated sexual positions, though that is a large part of the book. The book covers seduction, setting the mood, trust, romance, and so much more. Read this book and you will learn about your own and your partner's bodies, and how to add true adroitness to your lovemaking. This is the book for those who want to not just make love, but make it expertly.

(Review of The Modern Kama Sutra: The Ultimate Guide to the Secrets of Erotic Pleasure)

The Secret Pleasures of Menopause

Authors: Christiane Northrup
Publisher: Hay House
Publication date: 2008-10-15
ISBN: 1401922376
Pages: 192
Rating:
Price: $17.95

Customes reviews 18

Not much new (2009-07-19)

I was disappointed because the book didn't really have much new that I didn't already know. Was hoping for more juice based on the title!

However, I did glean some interesting info on nitric oxide, so will be quoting her in my next book. Apparently this stuff really helps with orgasms. She also give info on how to increase it. There is an entire chapter on that, which did make the book worthwhile for me.

There is also a chapter on "7 keys that will open the door to wonderful sexuality and sensuality after menopause" which basically entail old-idea things like lingerie, music, bubble baths, affirmations, and g-spot stimulation. She claims that post menopausal women are most active when they find a new partner. But for those of us who are happily married, she suggests BEING the new partner, reinventing yourself.

Life during Transition (2009-03-22)

THE SECRETS PLEASURES OF MENOPAUSE-I KNEW SOMEONE OUT THERE COULD EXPLAIN WHAT WAS HAPPENING TO MY BODY.SO I DECIDED TO GET THIS BOOK AND WHEN I GOT IT, IT WAS SO AMAZING HOW LIFE CAN BE GOOD IN PERIMENOPAUSE, I THOUGHT LIFE WAS OVER. I DISCOVERED THERE WERE OPTIONS IN TREATING ALL THOSE SYMPTOMS.I AM NOT QUITE DONE WITH THE BOOK,BUT EVERYONE WHO NEEDS ANSWERS THAT YOUR DOCTOR CAN NOT EXPLAIN.........THIS IS THE BOOK TO HAVE. THANK YOU CHRISTIANE NORTHRUP.

Secret Please of Menopause (2009-03-20)

Actually I have not received my book yet and it has been 6 weeks since I ordered it. I have sent repeated emails to the DVDlegacy vendor with no results. I have never had such poor customer service, particularly in responding to my inquiries. I finally requested my money be reimbursed and have heard nothing, of course.

I am seriously thinking of not ordering anything else from Amazon.com which is too bad. Former business transactions have been satisfactory.

A Most Valuable Resource (2009-03-17)

Been there; done that [menopause] but found this book such a vaulable resource I bought one of my own.

a waste of money (2009-03-01)

this book is a waste of money and seems to me to be a blantant exercise in "lets get some more money by manipluating hot-flashed women"...not to mention that Dr. Northrop looks like a Stepford Wife on the cover. As a Southern Maine resident and a patient at Dr. Northrup's practice, Women to Women, for many years in the 90's, I have relied on her work, especially Women's Bodies Women's Wisdom and The Wisdom of Menopause...But, this book, together with the accompanying journal and play book (another way to manipulate tourtured women into spending more money) are a slap in the face. Dr. Northrup, keep your advice clear, relavant and supportive and, please, for get about the junk. That's not what us 50-somthings need.

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