Sexual Life (found 2863 titles)

Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

Author: Kevin Leman
Publisher: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.
Publication date: 2003-09-01
ISBN: 0842360247
Pages: 256
Rating:
Price: $14.99

With his characteristic warmth and humor, Dr. Kevin Leman offers a practical guide to sex according to God's plan. This frank and practical book is a perfect resource for married and engaged couple

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I approve (2010-02-04)

Pretty good book. Probably best for engaged couples and newly married couples. Although my aunt swears that it totally revived her marriage.

I kind of feel like this book focused more on what the wife could do to help the marriage rather than focusing on both the husband and wife. I would've liked a little more info for the husband.

Still a great book. Somewhat graphic yet very scripturally sound.

100th Review! Lovin' This Book Already. (2010-01-15)

I am a newly engaged young woman and I was given this book by my best friend, who read it and loved it... told me that it is a must read before I get married. so I bought a copy for my fiance and we are reading it together. we are only up to chapter four (and great discussion has been brought about already) Dr. Leman tells us not to continue reading until we am married, and we are going to take his advice. In the meantime, I might grab another Dr. Leman book. I can't wait to read the rest and implement Dr. Leman's advice into my marriage.

Churches Beware it is not what it is cracked up to be (2009-11-21)

I checked this book out of the library about a year and a half into my marriage. I had heard about it from other couples that had read it as part of their pre-marital counseling. I heard nothing but good about it. The content I found was less than riveting. If you have studied about sexuality before in any detail you already know the things he will say. It may be insightful for your spouse. My husband learned some things. However, it did not improve our sex life at all. Knowing names of things does not make things work better.
He went into berating Christian parents for raising their children with a "guilt" complex, and puts far too much stock in the idea that sexual suppression stems from there. Perhaps it is because I am from a younger generation that I felt so offended. So that very well might be helpful to those that felt like they were raised by people that believed in the stork.
Furthermore, I would not call this a "Christian" book. I am sure the author is honest in his claim to be one, but this book ought not to be categorized as one. He equates masturbation as a valid medical procedure. Let me clarify he supports the spouse going off alone to masturbate in order to "improve" the couples sex life. This was by far the most damaging thing he could have ever put on paper. Medically it is not wise for a man to reach an orgasm outside of sex in order to 'last longer.' It will work only in the short run, and in the long run it will make sex shorter, and possibly lead to premature orgasms, because the mind will separate the orgasm from sex. I could not believe he did not know this FACT. Not to mention the very real danger of lusting. How is it wise for a man or woman to seek out arousal AND satisfaction without their spouse around? Who or what on earth is arousing them? Perhaps it is a valid medical procedure for women in general, but I would never want to act adulterous by seeking sexual pleasure without my husband. He does not even seem to understand how very real a danger this is.Finally, it is horribly sexist. He pushes the idea that woman ought to be sexually available to some extent for their husbands 24/7. No matter what the circumstances. I understand that it is considered by many men to be an emotional need. However, deep talking is an emotional need for woman generally. This does not mean that I require my husband to be available for a deep talk 24/7! That would put a horrible strain on him. Talking does not generally come easy for men. Just like sex for many women does not come easy. This book has a terrible double standard. It comes across in other far worse ways, but I'll keep this short. Two stars for some insight.

sheet music (2009-10-28)

This book is very informitive, i wish I had it when I got married,totally recommend it to anyone.

Playing a symphony with Sheet Music (2009-10-18)

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Just Fuck Me! - What Women Want Men to Know About Taking Control in the Bedroom (A Guide for Couples)

Author: Eve Kingsley
Publisher: Secret Life Publishing
Publication date: 2008-12-16
ISBN: 0981803989
Pages: 124
Rating:
Price: $14.95

"You're the Man... Act Like One!" Look, I know you're not a mind reader, so I'm going to be blunt... The majority of women like to be fucked. And I mean really fucked. Yes, the media has lied to you. Sure, there are some women that want to lay on their backs, look into your eyes, and gently rock back and forth, but most of us want you to channel the power of the Sun through your penis and give us a good, solid pounding. Act like you want it, for God's sake! In this book, I'm going to lay out exactly what the majority of women want and show you exactly how to give it to them. I've got a section just for you and one for your female partner, so you can feel 100% comfortable letting loose on her vagina in the way she's secretly craving. Some of the topics we'll cover... The Alpha Male - It's more than just being an ex-fratboy douchebag, who still thinks he's on the high school football team. I'll clue you in. Dirty Talk - Trust me, she wants it. If she didn't, she'd fuck a mime. Speaking of, did you know Marcel Marceau was divorced three times? Enough said. Role Playing - How she really feels about pretending to be the babysitter, a whore, and a student looking for a little "extra credit." I'll take you through the top 11 Alpha Male fantasies...including one so controversial, I can't even mention it here. The Art of Being Assertive - Sack up and take control! What to do...and what not to do. Sexual Communication - Both you and your partner have needs and good communication, both verbal and non-verbal, is crucial when it comes to getting them on the table. I'll show you how to communicate "Alpha Male Style." You'll learn what to say...and how to say it. Now that I've got you all hyped up and extremely aware of the need to please your woman, let's go about succeeding at it. Let's get down to brass tacks. What are you waiting for? Buy the book already! Eve Kingsley is a feminist writer based in San Francisco. She teaches couples how to push the boundaries of a sexual relationship to create new levels of honesty, intimacy, and trust.

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Better than most (2010-01-27)

I got this book and read it and was very happy with it. Most sex advice books suck, they only tell you stuff that anyone who is in a committed relationship with good communication would know, they are written for teens because they are the only ones who would not know that advice. This book on the other hand tells you about what girls want but don't know how to ask for, and tells you how to slowly introduce some new, fun sexual activities to your relationship. The only detraction I can say about this book is it is very simple, now that may sound like a good thing but I would have liked to explore some more of the psychological aspects of the sex described in the book and why we have lost this in our modern relationships because of the ways we are raised, but I like to explore things deeply. Over all though it was a good short read that actually did help my sex life a little. I would place this book right between "sex advice" and "kinky" and I would recommend this book to couples that are happy with their sex life but maybe feel like they are stuck in a rut and want a little more out of their bedroom activities.

Couples Guide To Satisfying A Woman's Desires for an Alpha Male Lover (2009-10-07)

Like me, you were probably just innocently walking along or surfing when this the title of this book reached out and grabbed your curiosity and wouldn't let go. Since the book's title has your undivided attention, just what is the book about? It's a self-help guide/instruction book/sex manual written by a woman, a feminist no less, who obviously knows what she is talking about. How can a San Francisco feminist write a book like this one? As she says, "This is not a relationship advice book. This is a guide to pleasing your woman in bed." It's her experience that one of the reasons "why women like men who are more assertive in the bedroom" is feminism. "How could something that inspires women to be strong and in control be the same reason why she wants her partner to be an alpha male in the bedroom?" These are the questions that the author answers in this fascinating 113-page book. It's impossible to answer most of the questions brought up in this tome in this short review, but the term "alpha male" does need to be defined. "Simply put, an alpha male is a man's man. Someone who exudes masculinity. Someone who looks like they'd be a challenger in a fight. A man who is all man, inside and out." This is the guy most women and feminists, according to the author, fantasize about being swept off their feet and ravished in the bedroom--but only the bedroom, not the rest of the relationship.
"Similarly, this advice is not for new couples or for causal sexual encounters. There needs to be a trusting bond" between the partners. This book "is NOT" about "BDSM techniques." The woman needs "to make sure your man understands perfectly that this is not a reflection of his masculinity...This is a sexual desire YOU have, that HE can fulfill for you."
Since American men are taught throughout life not to be "alpha males" the book is filled with techniques for the woman to teach, train her man to be a nice "alpha male." She successfully explains how to go about this seemingly paradoxical task and even if the various techniques and experiments fail, at least both partners are going to have a lot of fun failing. Following this advice is definitely going to perk up the couple's sex lives.
One word of caution for men reading and attempting to follow this guidebook, communication both verbal and otherwise before, during and after rough sex is extremely important. And while that advice sounds like one of the first commandments (along with consenting adults only) of BDSM practitioners, the author stresses that this book is not an introduction to BDSM even with the introduction of some fetish games, safe words and role-playing. She stresses that all these techniques are perfectly normal and mainstream. The feminist author's tone sounds very much like the attitude of a dominatrix, but she is probably just trying to keep her beta male in an alpha role only in the bedroom. But males need to be very, very careful with whom and how they play this alpha male role as defined by this feminist author.
If the rough sex and role-playing gets carried too far, the full weight of the sexual abuse laws can come crashing down on the man, and only the man. Becoming an alpha male in the bedroom can easily cause legal problems for the beta male trying to be the alpha male in bed to please his mate, but then having to return to the beta male in the rest of the relationship. An upset lover can easily go after her male fantasy provider legally. The man might be better off training in the real BDSM culture scene learning to be or act the role of an alpha male? In that scene written contracts are often used to avoid legal problems. It might be wise to have such a written agreement in this play between normal, so called mainstream straight lovers. That said this is definitely an eye-opening page-turner. The attention grabbing title is only there for the pure shock value for this rather straight bedroom guide for pleasing the female part of a heterosexual couple.

Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time (The Every Man Series)

Authors: Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker
Publisher: WaterBrook Press
Publication date: 2009-08-18
ISBN: 0307457974
Pages: 336
Rating:
Price: $14.99

The Challenge Every Man Faces...The Fight Every Man Can Win!

From movies and television, to print media and the Internet, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It is impossible to avoid such temptations... but, thankfully, not impossible to confront them and gain victory over them!
Millions have found Every Man’s Battle the single greatest resource for overcoming the struggle and remaining strong in the face of temptation. With extensive updates for a new generation, this phenomenal bestseller shares the stories of dozens who have escaped the trap of sexual immorality and presents a practical, detailed plan for any man who desires sexual integrity.

Includes a comprehensive workbook and a special section for women, designed to help them understand and support the men they love.

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Great (2010-02-06)

Definitely worth the read. If any man is suffering lust please ... i encourage them to read this. I would personally buy this book for someone who is suffering lustful thoughts and have hard time with porn and looking at women. I had this same problem. I'm not saying i don't do it ever again, but i will say its encouraged me to help look away, keep eyes on God. Think about God and pray under your breath if the temptation comes.

Neglects Root Issues and Problems (2009-12-11)

I read this a while back but I do know that I did like what it brought to the forefront of my heart. This reason why I marked this book so low is that it dwelt with how to avoid lust and keep from temptation but it didn't deal with how to handle that I desire to lust regardless of what I'm looking at our doing. Behavior modification is needed, but I need my desires changed which I don't feel this book really helped draw out in how that is done. The gospel and the power of Jesus Christ is the only thing that can affect my hearts desires. So I would recommend other books prior to reading this. Legalism is something that could stem from reading this book (wanting to set boundaries up, rules, etc. to keep from doing things). Rules and standards to live by are great, but they can not stop you from that sin. It will just make it harder for a sin to manifest itself.

This book deals with the fruit of being sinful and no the root of being sinful. Recommend "Not Even a Hint" - Joshua Harris

Eye opening book (2009-12-05)

I read the exhaustive review by a pastor on this book before I bought it. He didn't think it was a good resource do to the lack of scripture in it. I think it was worth the read and I gained insight from it.
I also read it for a program called Champions Network. Anyway, reading the book sparked conversation with my co workers and I really enjoyed the message within. I believe it gave enough spiritual leading as well as practical ways not mentioned in the Bible to help you gain freedom from sexual sin. We need God's help either way.
I am personally not mired in sexual addiction but as a man, I do have my issues with movies and tv shows that have blatant nudity and/or sex in them. I commented to my wife its really not necessary. Unfortunately, its what draws viewers; a sad commentary on our culture indeed. Anyway, I enjoyed the book and it opened my eyes in the area of sexual purity and how sex is just everywhere but it is possible to navigate through life without focusing in on all the sexual imagery. I will be reading the other books by the authors and hopefully reading one or two of them with my wife.

Everyman's Battle (2009-12-05)

A very shallow answer to a very serious problem. Misleading, inaccurate! Don't be mislead through slick marketing.

Every Man's Battle (2009-11-28)

A must-have resource for every man that desires to live in victory with what has to rank among the biggest problems that men who want to be pleasing to God in all they do should have.

Sex Deck: Playful Positions to Spice Up Your Love Life

Authors: Dr. Dawn Harper
Publisher: Chronicle Books
Publication date: 2006-10-05
ISBN: 0811853578
Pages: 52
Rating:
Price: $14.95

If missionary has become monotonous, and doggy has gotten dull, then turn to the Sex Deck. Tonight, skip the same-old-same-old and give Leg Wrap, Easy Rider, or The Sun Worshiper a try. This provocative and inspiring deck from the international best-seller, The Lover's Guide, offers over 50 ways for lovers to spice up their sex play. Pull a card at random for some steamy spontaneity, leave a suggestion in a lover's briefcase or purse, or slip it under their pillow.

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Add some spice and a some fun in your relationship (2009-12-20)

Great product to add some spice, try something new or just do something fun and different. Definitely worth the price.

The Sex Deck (2009-10-21)

Lots of fun cards to try, but some are almost exactly the same. Great for leaving a card lying around as a hint at plans for later. Great for first-timers.

Not bad, good to get some fun started (2009-09-13)

My wife and I have had great fun with these cards. And while no, there isn't anything really wild in here, to us that wasn't the source of our fun. We use the cards as "kindling" to get the fire started. A card slipped into her purse in the morning, or left hidden where she might find later does more to get things going then the actual content of the cards. Sometimes all it takes is a little nudge or suggestion to get our own creativity going.

Overall, I would rate them as fairly high quality with a fair number of positions. Some of the positions are exceptionally basic such as missionary, others are duplicates with a minor twist while others yet are a little more creative. If you're looking for extensive sexual instruction and advanced technique, these probably aren't for you. If you're looking for a little something to spark some creativity and get things going, they can be quite fun.

Turning Over a New Card is Fun (2009-09-12)

Has variety and good ideas for change. Use as a magic deck and shuffle and pick a card any card and enjoy.

An Average Deck of Cards (2009-08-04)

Just a few drawings. This might be nice for people who are new to it all. But for those who have been indulging and just looking for ways to spice it up, ehhh... not so much. Many of the positions are just slight variations of "standard" positions such as missionary and doggy style.

Seriously, this deck can only claim the "spicy" adjective if it's selling to a 16 year old virgin. If you've only ever had sex in the missionary position, OK, this deck is for you. But otherwise, the mild sauce at Taco Bell has more spice than this deck. Save your money and buy a pair of glow in the dark dice. I believe, you'll have WAY more fun and creative in an original way.

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Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage, Third Edition

Authors: Ed Wheat, Gaye Wheat
Publisher: Revell
Publication date: 1997-04-01
ISBN: 0800717368
Pages: 288
Rating:
Price: $19.99

For over 20 years, this best-seller has helped couples build fulfilling marriages with medically accurate information and biblical wisdom on sex and relationships.

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Intended For Pleasure by Gaye Wheat (2010-02-22)

I actually bought this book as a bridal gift. It was highly recommended by Pastor Mark Jobe when I attended his conference he spoke on "Singleness". He cautioned it should only be read by someone ready to wed.

Perfect for Newlyweds (2010-02-19)

I'm about to get married in three weeks. When my friend who has been married just under 8 months suggested this book to me, I was skeptical. It didn't look appropriate for someone not yet married. I started reading it and after just a few moments I realized that this author had really hit the mark. I'll still be nervous on my wedding night, but I think I have a much clearer idea of what to expect. My fiance read it, too, and feels assured now that we'll be ok. This would make a great bridal shower gift for any couple, and is also great for couples who have been married for years (so I've been told).

Useless (2010-02-19)

This book was given to me after three years of happy, successful marriage. I suspect now that the motivation stemmed more from a lack of grandchildren than any concern over my sex life with my husband. I ended up tossing it in a box to moulder after the first couple of chapters, and it certainly hasn't hurt my marriage in the least to ignore the so-called advice in it.

I found the text to be utterly useless, and offensive to my intelligence and sense of worth as a woman. The biology section, though dry, was at least relatively factual. I frankly stopped reading when I discovered that the sexual technique section was horribly lacking in information and sadly out of date. There are less than half a dozen possible positions listed, and most of those are just slight variations on plain old Missionary. I don't recommend anyone limit themselves to the stiltedness in these pages. There are MUCH better guides out there.

Don't bother buying this one. It's a waste of money, not to mention time.

Where's the fun? (2010-02-11)

I have only been a Christian for a few years and I'm close to 40, there wasn't too much new info in here for me, as I had a sex life Pre-Christ. I would consider it to be a fairly good resource for virgins and the first wedding night. I liked that Dr. Wheat didn't underestimate the importance of a woman's orgasm.

My main problem with the book is a poor range of activities are suggested. Oral sex isn't even really addressed and even seems to be discouraged as then the woman might not find fulfillment in the sex act. But what about fellatio? I can guarantee you'll have one unhappy husband if you neglect that area. There's so much more to do and so many ways to have fun with your husband, and it's not really outlined in this book. Get an addition to this one, and one that's more up to date.

thorough, honest and Biblical (2010-02-07)

This book is standard for our pre-marital counseling ministry. It is thorough and Biblical. Sometimes, Christian material on this subject lacks honesty and transparency, but this book does not. It covers from first time sexual experience within marriage to later years in life. Excellent material.

The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse

Authors: Dan B Allender Ph.D., Dan B Allender
Publisher: NavPress
Publication date: 2008-08-13
ISBN: 1600063071
Pages: 272
Rating:
Price: $16.99

SUBTITLE: Hope For Adult Victims Of Childhood Sexual Abuse

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The Wounded Heart (2010-03-07)

this book has a very religious base, as suggesting that abuse can be fixed by embracing prayer to God/Jesus. However the basis for the reaction people have to abuse and the actions of the abuser struck the chord of reality for me. It explains the reactions of the abused and helps to understand how the abused lives in society. Very eye opening explanation of the way an abused child lives their adult lives.

A MUST HAVE (2010-02-26)

I decided to get this book after I was given the Cry of the Soul also by Dr. Allender. I strongly recommend BOTH of these books if you are healing from sexual abuse, actually any type of book. Dr. Allender breaks down exactly what human being go through, the damages done to not only the body, but the mind. If you don't understand why you do the things you do, the way you act, read this book, read both books and I thing you will find a great source of comfort, peace and understanding. This will be a true gift to your soul. God bless you through your journey.

Buckle your seat belt (2010-01-02)

This book is excellent, but should not be read in isolation. If done in a group setting led by someone you trust, you will have companions to journey with as you face your past and the pain of abuse. I have seen change in my own life and in the lives of friends as we worked through the workbook together.

Beginning with identification of present day problems and symptoms related to abuse, it continues with your past history, walking you through your responses to victimization. Denial and memory issues are dealt with as well. It is the best tool I know of to help you connect the effects of past abuse with ongoing damage to relationships in the present. It helps you learn to navigate your internal emotional realm with greater clarity, asking you to walk down paths you have previously avoided because of denial, fear, and confusion.

This book stands out because it goes beyond victimization to helping you examine how your responses to abuse have carried over into adulthood, often in sinful ways. It is unflinchingly honest and the work is difficult. If you are not prepared to examine your heart, I suggest that you put this book aside for another day. It offers no quick fix band-aids, but addresses the need for a thorough cleansing of the wound, bringing your pain to the surface where it can be dealt with. It helps you learn to deal with the damage done to your mind, heart, and emotions, and acknowledges that the difficulty of the struggle is prolonged. It doesn't let you off the hook when it comes to examining your sin, but it is written with empathy and understanding, offering a biblical path to healing and restoration. If you choose to go through this book while entrusting your heart and healing to God, you will be richly rewarded as you begin to see change in yourself and in your relationship to God and others.

Awesome book! (2009-11-14)

This book is a must have for anyone who has been sexually abused. Even if it only happened one time. It is amazing how that effects every area of your relationships through out life until you get healing through God and counseling. You won't be sorry you purchased this book!

Read this book if you want hope for healing (2009-11-12)

Dan understands sexual abuse. Sitting in a room with him is a life changing experience. Anyone who knows him can tell you that God has gifted him in ways that no one else in the world is gifted. He is a man of integrity who is full of passion. He has an extreme and intense love for God that you don't see every day. Read this book and you will change.

Every Young Man's Battle: Strategies for Victory in the Real World of Sexual Temptation (The Every Man Series)

Authors: Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker
Publisher: WaterBrook Press
Publication date: 2009-08-18
ISBN: 0307457990
Pages: 336
Rating:
Price: $14.99

In this world you’re surrounded by sexual images that open the door to temptation. They’re everywhere–on TV, billboards, magazines, music, the internet–and so easy to access that it sometimes feels impossible to escape their clutches. Yet God expects his children to be sexually pure. So how can you survive the relentless battle against temptation? Here’s powerful ammunition.

Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker, the authors of the hard-hitting best-seller Every Man’s Battle, now focus on the temptations young single Christian men like you face every day–and they offer workable, biblical strategies for achieving sexual purity.

The authors examine the standard of Ephesians 5:3–“there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality”–in a positive and sensitive light. And they explain how an authentic, vibrant relationship with Jesus Christ is the key to victory over temptation. Every Young Man’s Battle will show you how to train your eyes and your mind, how to clean up your thought life, and how to develop a realistic battle plan for remaining pure in today’s sexually soaked culture. As a result, you’ll experience hope–real hope–for living a strong, pure life God’s way

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teen book about temptation (2010-01-17)

My son and friend are working through this book as a way to counter the world they encounter everyday. As teens, I feel they must be proactive to keep out of the grip of premarital sexuality on many levels, and this book is written in such a way that makes a boy think and work on his priorities. It allows them to see a different way to live, without looking like a freak! It's an excellent tool, especially when a young adult male or father reads and discusses with a teen in a non-threatening, but very real way.

To Graphic (2010-01-02)

All I have to say is this book is like porn with scripture thrown in between the sex scenes. If you or your teen or are already dealing with this issue, all it does is give you new graphic images to lust after and is a how to guide on sexual gratification. As a parent of a teen son and tween daughter myself, I understand the need for straight forward talk about sex. However it doesn't need to be straight out of the "gutter" (as another reader put it) to get the point across.

Very helpful but cautions needed before reading (2009-12-31)

"Every Young Man's Battle" is extremely helpful in candidly addressing the sexual issues Christian young men need to understand for purity. The biblical premise of the book is that sexual purity is possible with reliance on God and by employing strategies for absolute victory. The authors convincingly, by Scripture and experience, demonstrate that sexual purity is not only commanded by God and desirable, but possible as well. In the midst of a sex-saturated culture, this idea is critical for young men to embrace and is worth the price of the book.

The other major strength of this book is its refreshing coverage of topics. It candidly discusses adultery, pornography, lust, and masturabtion - a topic infrequently discussed or glossed over despite the guilt and harm it tends to create for Christian singles and teenagers. It gives many strategies for curtailing the images and stimuli that feed sexual impulse. These strategies provide honest and practical help for any young and single man struggling in these areas.

My caution with the book is that, in the words of one reviewer, the book "drags your mind through the gutter." Included were testimonies of sexual falls that perhaps went into too much detail, especially considering one chapter, "Your Mustang Mind," discusses how pervasive sex can be on the man's mind. The authors - by including some of these accounts with so much detail - unfortunately produce new sexual scenarios in the mind of the reader. While perhaps unavoidable and certainly not intentional, this does not help along the quest for purity. Certainly, some readers are more capable of handling this detail than others, so it is a general caution worth noting.

In conclusion, "Every Young Man's Battle" is a terrific resource for a Christian struggling with sexual impurity of any kind. It was personally very helpful, and the amount of other positive reviews indicate this. Parents, ministers and Christian workers and friends should read the book themselves before recommending it to an individual, to consider whether the detail in the book will make it helpful. "Not Even a Hint" by Joshua Harris is another book that promotes the same concepts while perhaps being better in this way. But "Every Young Man's Battle" is most certianly a terrific resource in the fight for purity.

Excellent Book (2009-12-27)

Every Young Man's Battle is a no nonsense book that goes way beyond all of the usual ideas for sexual purity for young and old men alike. It is full of very direct, real world help for any man's struggles with what he sees every day.This book does not shy away from the subjects of masturbation, pornography, and girls and women who dress without enough clothes. (Mothers afraid of teaching your boys about too much of the world's truths, think again and get this book!)This book will give a guy a list of concrete things to do to keep himself out of trouble and moving on a path of healthy, happy living without the overwhelming feelings associated with being addicted to thoughts of sex or the guilt associated with these subjects. This book would be a good choice for any man and is an excellent choice for a single man of any age. (It is also good for young ladies as a help to show them what they are doing when they wear too little and to show them the way men think.---My 17 yr old daughter read this, too! Parental guidance advised for girls though, as it is a bit over the top for our feminine sensibilities and it could easily scare a girl a bit or make her conclude that all men are somewhat 'sick', which isn't the point of it all). As a parent of 5 boys, 3 girls and 'in law' children, too, I highly recommend this book.

Other books I recommend on this or similar subjects are:

Books by Douglas Wilson:Fidelity: What It Means to be a One-Woman Man, Future Men, Her Hand in Marriage: Biblical Courtship in the Modern World, Reforming Marriage,

Books from the 'Every Man' series:Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time (The Every Man Series), Every Woman's Battle: Discovering God's Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment (The Every Man Series), Every Young Woman's Battle: Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body in a Sex-Saturated World (The Every Man Series),

All are very good books for their intended audiences. Wilson's books are deeper but are great for high school students that enjoy a good read.

Amazing guide on staying sexually pure! (2009-12-02)

Imagine, sitting in the backseat of the car with the girl just met at the after-party of the Friday night football game, forgetting her name because one is too drunk to remember, and she is drunk enough to take advantage of. Going in to make a move and hesitate and think, "What's the right choice here? I've got a smoking hot babe that I can do whatever I want to, what's the harm? She won't even remember because she is too drunk to remember" Before it is known, four months later she is calling with the shocking news that she is pregnant.
Making the right choices and knowing the consequences of actions play a huge role in this book. Every Young Man's Battle is the perfect guideline for young men struggling to stay sexually pure in their walk with God.
While reading Every young mans battle one can be assured about relating to the authors when needed while reading about tools to use for people that are struggling sexually. The author more likely to relate to the reader, is Fred Stoeker. (FredStoeker.com) Stoeker started his struggle with sexual impurity in first grade when he found a stack of pornography magazines in his dad's bedroom. For twenty years after that incident, Stoeker struggled with pornography and sleeping around from bed to bed. At the age of 23 Stoeker gave his life to the Lord, regardless there was still distance between him and God. Thinking that Marriage would fix the problem of sexual impurity, Fred got married to Brenda, yet the struggle continued, putting even more distance between Stoeker and God. As he received his BA with Honors from Stanford, his marriage problems became worse along with his personal uprightness. Stoeker then spent much time researching Christian writings on troubleshooting for marriage along with human sexuality. As Stoeker began to attend Bible study on a daily basis, God began to change Stoker's heart, as well as his thinking process. Two very strong bible verses Job 31:1 and Luke 6:46 started to reel Stoeker back into Gods presence and Joy. The other co-author, Stephen Arterburn, spends little time speaking his stories in this book, however, he does help lay down many key concepts and fundamentals in the fight for sexual purity. Arterburn has written well over 60 books, he is the founder and chairman of New Life Ministries, which is the nation's largest faith-based broadcast, counseling and treatment ministry (Newlife.com). Steve and Fred have both won many awards with their "Every man" series including other books such as Every Mans Battle or Every Young Woman's Battle and many more. Every Young Man's Battle won Gold medallion awards in the teen category in 2003(fredstoeker.com). As Fred tells his life story as well as examples from others, who don't have complete names in the book due to protection of their identities, one will find it very easy to relate, so rest assured.
Every Young Man's Battle is separated into seven sections generally organized in a "state the problem find the solution" form. Much of the book is written using Fred's life as an amazing example, starting from the beginning to end, while the other examples from numerous other people fill in the gaps of addressing other sexual impurity issues. The book starts off in part 1 asking where the reader stands right now in their walk spiritually. Part two will address how any sexual impurity entered the reader's life in the first place. Part three really puts the fork in the road forcing the reader to make a choice (if one is to truly follow the guideline of the book) on which path they will take. And parts four thru seven deal with every issue from masturbation all the way to homosexuality. Towards the second half of the book, how to address those problems is stated very thoroughly by Stoker and Arterburn.
In the first section, Stoeker starts telling his life story starting all the way back from high school when football was "God". At the time staying sexually pure wasn't too much of a challenge, because he viewed relationships as too much of a distraction from his ultimate goal, to become an all-state quarterback. His interest in sex was more so passive in a way. During the off-season however, Stoeker began dating around, which led to sleeping around and eventually breaking past every single barrier that God had set for him, these habits also added on the addiction of pornography. Stoeker shares this to the readers to let them know he knows where they are coming from with any addiction of premarital sex. He also states in section 1 about the revelation that he had with God, which forced him to take a look at what he had become. It was well after college at this point and his life took a huge turn for the better, he devoted to live a life of sexual purity in his walk with God. This section in the book is very important because Stoeker lays down six "basic truths",
1. Attraction to girls is natural
2. Sex is exhilarating.
3. Sex is a slippery slope.
4. God has standards of sexual behavior for his children.
5. God's love is not based upon your ability to meet his standards.
6. Rules are a part of a vibrant relationship with Christ
Another reason why section 1 is helpful is because it literally gives the reader a list of numerous bible verses that talk about sex and sexual impurity and how to steer clear of that path until marriage. A particularly good verse that was stated was Ephesians 5:3-4, "Among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for Gods holy people, nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place". Every Young Man's Battle uses many examples of struggle stories from men aging from their teens to shortly after college, quite the spectrum. The reason why section one is so important is because it lays a very strong foundation for the rest of the book. As the book goes on, it drills the same concepts continuously in different phrases or scenarios.
The second section of the book labeled "How we got here" shows how Stoeker falls short of Gods standards as a new Christian. At this point in Stoekers walk, which was a couple years after his revelation, he began to notice in church on Sunday mornings that he couldn't get into the worship and that here was distance growing between him and God, the reason for this was that there was still bits and pieces of sexual immorality in his life. He recognizes that although he had become a leader of many groups at the church and was happily married to a woman that God gave him, on his own time, he still hadn't fully rejected sexual sin. Stoeker had "stopped short" of Gods standards, and unfortunately found a middle ground. The principle in this section is to teach that one should eliminate every hint of sexual sin if he is to walk in purity.
The third section of Every Young Man's Battle force the reader to ask themselves "will you aim for acceptance or authenticity?" Although this chapter is very short, it plays a key section in the book as a whole. The question, "will you aim for acceptance or authenticity?" The book defines aiming for acceptance as only acting as a Christian in front of your Christian friends, but let sin and impurity mix in with your life outside of church, so that person is only "aiming for acceptance". On the other hand is the choice of being authentic, which the book defines as not only to appear as a Christian on the outside, but to be authentic Christian in the heart as well. So when someone asks themselves, "How accepted can I be?", instead they should be asking, "How holy can I be?" This is one of the stronger foundations of this book.
Part four of Every Young Man's battle deals with the most common sexual struggle with men of many ages, masturbation, in this section of the book, Steve Arterburn's (the other co-author) story begins. Atrerburn talks about his rebel attitude elevation when he as eleven. Although he had already made his salvation with Christ, he began to compromise. This "compromising" began when he cheated on tests all the time in elementary; this eventually led to compromising all the way past college. Arterburn talks of the first time a friend showed him exactly was masturbating was in the tree house. Not knowing the delayed consequences of his actions, and thinking that no one would know, Arterburn "compromised", and began to grow an addiction to masturbation. This addiction led to an early exposure to pornography, which led to sleeping around, promiscuity, these bad habits ended up with Arterburn forcing a former girlfriend into an abortion. It is a shock how simply compromising can lead to the horrors of abortion. The lesson is very clear in this section.
Sections four through seven generally deals with solutions and addresses all the issues discussed up to this point. There are many important answers in section four particularly on staying sexually pure. One of the first steps is to develop a strategy or as the book puts it, a "battle plan". First stating that impurity is a habit and an addiction, the authors then state all kinds of strategies and ideas to keep the mind pure. Strategies like "bouncing your eyes" stating that when the eyes "bounce" towards the attractive parts of a woman, let them "bounce" away instantly. This particular strategy is rephrased and integrated into a few others, such as keeping the eyes off the female joggers or changing the channel when it comes to "beer-and-bikini" commercials on TV.
The second chapter of section five labeled "your sword and shield" speaks for itself in strategies for purity. This is a fundamental chapter in the whole of the book. It gives two bible verses for the reader to use; one of the verses serves as his shield, and the other serves as the sword. These are metaphorical of course, but if one is to follow them, it will most likely help. These verses are Job 31 and 1Corinthians 6:18-20. The end of section five states to keep striving to meet Gods standards of sexual purity, using these verses as a booster to do so.
Looking at the whole picture of the purpose of this book, section six was very interesting, but not so relevant, dealing with respecting the father and girls perspective. It discusses respecting a woman's father, and how taking that girl out on a date is like taking that fathers pride and joy away for the night. The book teaches how to respect the father in ways such as asking for their daughters hand in marriage, or making sure he is around the house while on the couch with his daughter. This section also gets a partial view from a girls standpoint of sexuality. The relevant chapter of this section is the last one, asking the reader if they are ready to fight for their sexual purity. The last section of the book, section seven, is unfortunately small and just merely taps the issue on homosexuality, suggesting many of the same solutions that were stated for heterosexual men.
Every Young Man's Battle deals with virtually every aspect of sexual struggle in the lives of men (teens and young adults) and gives questions to the readers that put them on the spot, questions like, "how holy are you going to be?", "are you ready to make the choice?", "are you going to take a stand?". It is a very down to earth book as Nicholas Bradley said as a reviewer on goodreads.com, "it gets real and becomes intense at times, but is a great book to do with others if you are looking for purity". Not only is this book helpful with purity, it will also bring the reader closer to God and heal their relationship with Jesus Christ, as Jon T., a Reviewer on [...] said, "this got my personal relationship with Christ to a new level". Although the book gets a bit sexually graphic at times, the readers should be able to relate to at least one of the sections of this book. Due to the graphic content however, it is recommended that parents read thru this book before handing it to their teenagers. It is highly recommended that young adult men need to read Every Young Man's Battle, giving its perfect guide to a walk of sexual purity, and an amazing walk with Jesus.

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Turn Up the Heat: A Couples Guide to Sexual Intimacy

Authors: Kevin Leman
Publisher: Revell
Publication date: 2009-03-01
ISBN:
Pages: 304
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Price: $17.99

One of God's greatest gifts is the pleasure and privilege of sex within marriage. Dr. Kevin Leman knows even married people have lots of questions about sex, but sometimes they feel too embarrassed to ask or don't know where to turn for the best answers. For all those questions readers couldn't imagine asking their pastor or even their close friends, Dr. Leman is ready with open ears and expert advice. Often asked about sex and intimacy as he speaks and travels, he bets that some of those questions are the ones readers want answered too. With his trademark humor and wit, he offers frank answers to the burning questions all of us have about sex. Covering such topics as God's original intentions for sex, body image, attraction, expectations, sex drive, sex after children arrive, and much, much more, Turn Up the Heat is comprehensive in scope and just what the doctor ordered. Readers will not only get the answers they crave but plenty of the hearty chuckles they expect from Leman. Perfect for newlyweds or couples who have been married for years.

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Dr. Leman does not disappoint! (2010-01-11)

My husband and I LOVE Dr. Leman and how his witty humor and honest, Biblical perspective on marriage can change can alter our relationship in the most incredible ways! We were introduced to him through his book Sheet Music and loved it so much that we recommended it to everyone we knew... we haven't heard of any couple who didn't love it and see a difference in their views of each other within marriage. We moved on to Turn Up The Heat and are once again anything but disappointed! I recommended this book to my parents, too... perfect for any age!

GREAT way to start the communication to help your marriage! (2009-10-15)

This book opens up communication and helps both sides to start talking about the issues that need to help heal a marriage when it comes to the "sex talk". It makes both sides talk about what they expect sexually in a marriage and helps give great suggestions to deepen your marriage by addressing major issues. It has really helped us in opening up to our own needs and in how to fulfill those in each other. A MUST get for every marriage!

I was clueless in Chicago. (2009-07-03)

If you are looking to re-ignite your love life, this is the book for you! Definitely a great book for a man to read. Leman shoots it to us straight. It sure taught me a thing or two. Like most men, I didn't think this book would teach me anything, but it made a big difference in our relationship.

A Book Even Your Husband Will Read...really! (2009-06-10)

After reading Have A New Kid by Friday Have a New Kid by Friday: How to Change Your Child's Attitude, Behavior & Character in 5 Days and seeing how much the relationship between me and my daughter became better, I decided to check out other books by Dr. Leman and I stumbled across his Turn Up the Heat in hopes that I could improve aspects of my marriage as well as I have with my daughter. WOW!!! What a tremendous difference in our sex life. Quite frankly, I didn't think it could improve that much and my husband? I think he's going to become a "Leman groupie"! I never thought I'd see the day that my husband would read a book about relationships!! I asked him why he'd read this one, and he said that he liked the candor and guilt-free style and encouraging advice that Dr. Leman has. This book handles intimate topics with Dr. Leman's same degree of readability and humor as his other books. It is an easy read and yet full of impacting advice. I would highly recommend this book. My husband and I are a path that I didn't think was possible and we thank Dr. Leman for helping us get there. We're going to check out his Sheet Music next!!

No more boring bedroom in my house! (2009-05-22)

Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

This book is just what the doctor ordered--and a lot more fun than taking medicine. After a few years of marriage, let's face it. Sexual intimacy can get, well, boring. But no more. My husband and I just read Turn Up the Heat, and that's exactly what it's done for us. My husband has always been the "adventuresome" one, and I've always been reticent to try anything new. I grew up in a home where I was taught to be modest so taking any risks in the bedroom has been hard for me. But this book answered lots of questions I had that I didn't dare ask anyone else--even my husband. Dr. Leman made me appreciate who I am--and encouraged me to be the woman I want to be, free of embarrassment. If you're like me, and you want straight talk about marital sex, what your spouse wants, how often you should "do it," some creative suggestions for what to do when you're "too pooped to whoop," and some guilt-free advice that will help you see yourself (yup, love handles and all) and your spouse in a whole new light, this is the book for you. No more boring in our bedroom now, that's for sure! And I'm REALLY liking it.

Sex God: Exploring the Endless Connections between Sexuality and Spirituality

Authors: Rob Bell
Publisher: Zondervan
Publication date: 2008-07-01
ISBN: 0310280672
Pages: 208
Rating:
Price: $14.99

God and sex go together. You can?t separate the two, says Rob Bell, because this physical world is intimately linked to deeper spiritual realities. And so, in order to make sense of sexuality, at some

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I wish i bought the hardcover.... (2010-02-18)

i love this book, i dont want to finish it, but when i do, ill reread it. theres always something to learn from this book and thats what i love about it! i try reading this as much as possible but i'm in the army so im always too tired to read. ugh, i know thats not a good excuse.lol, but yes, its wonderful and im trying to read as much as i can! i bring it with me everyday so when i find time i can read and highlight important stuff i found. i love this book! i wish i had the hardcover though because paperback always seems to deteriorate due to time and use...wonderful though!

Best book on sex I've ever read (2010-01-03)

I don't usually care for dating books, or books on sex. The Christian books I've read on the subject seem to be cheezy, mushy, and kind of fake. The non Christian ones are just creepy, ha ha. But I absolutely love this book. I was first given it for my college graduation at my church service, and last year I used it for my girls life group. It goes deeper than sex as the general population sees it, and heads straight to the core of humanity, which is our connection with God. It reveals our sexuality as something beautiful God created in us, and it doesn't just connect us to people we sleep with, but to everyone, by treating others with respect, as human beings. It touches on so many aspects of sexuality, yet stays general enough that everyone can get something out of it. My girls life group had no trouble connecting and talking about this book...and to date is still their favorite book we've gone through! (we're on our fourth series) This is also a great book for high schoolers and college students if you're thinking of a gift idea...but it's also good for everyone! Definitely would recommend this book, one of my favorites.

Great Read for Insight on Relationships, Sexuality, Marriage, Love... (2009-12-21)

Rob Bell's second book doesn't disappoint. Velvet Elvis was great, but lacked a little direction and was sort of all over the place thematically. Sex God is all that Velvet Elvis offered (clever, insightful, practical...), but also to the point and directed. He discusses a range of topics covering sex, marriage, love, relationships, God, the church, eschatology, the Bible... I always feel a little more clear about the world we live in after reading or hearing from him. Sex God is no exception.

Amazing (2009-12-12)

This book covers such a wide span of topics. It was not exactly what I expected, but was very pleasantly surprised. I couldn't put it down and I'm typically a fiction reader. I felt like I was finally reading something I could agree with wholeheartedly and learn so much from. Highly recommend this to anyone.

Outstanding (2009-12-01)

Outstanding book! Everyone should read it. Don't let the title fool you. It defines what sexuality really is and how it directly correlates with out connectedness to God. A must read for any age group.

A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God's Gift of Sexual Intimacy

Authors: Douglas E. Rosenau
Publisher: Thomas Nelson
Publication date: 2002-10
ISBN: 0785264671
Pages: 384
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Price: $17.99

Dr. Douglas Rosenau is a licensed psychologist, and a Christian sex therapist who has for the past seventeen years used his training in theology and counseling to help Christian couples enrich and

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A must read for all Christian couples (2009-09-26)

Wow! This book is outstanding. It provide readers with the best of secular knowledge, evaluated through the lens of Scripture. It dominates all of the other available Christian titles. Everyday topics such as concrete suggestions for improving communication are covered, as are more major concerns such as various sexual dysfunctions.

The book is notable in that it provides a seamless interweaving of Scripture and detailed practical application material. Only an author with a background like Dr. Rosenau's - graduate Bible training from a respected evangelical seminary, a Ph.D. in sex therapy from a secular university, and years of counseling experience - could have written this book. I can't imagine a couple who wouldn't benefit from reading it. The first chapter on God's perspective on sexuality, alone, is worth the price of the book.

a MUST-READ volume for Couples! (2009-08-10)

This book is COMPREHENSIVE! I think nearly any situation a couple is interested in is covered. Wish my wife and I would've been given this book when we were first married ...of course it wasn't written back then! But in marriage, THIS Topic is HUGE, AND therefore makes it a FANTASTIC Wedding/Anniversary Gift! But ANY marriage that has questions or issues about this "topic" would find it an easy read and comforting to strengthen and deepen their relationship. The volume is large, but does not have to be read front to back although I would recommend reading the intro and 1st chapter first to serve as a backdrop to other chapters. Enjoy (literally)!

Celebrating It For Sure! (2009-08-03)

This Product is great. It gives me the answers to the all the questions that i have been asking myself. It tought me to give my wife better messages and she definitley deserves those. You cam tell this book has words of wisdom from god himself. I would recomend this book.

Transforming and freeing! (2009-05-15)

Bar none, this is the best one out there for Christian couples, newly married or married for decades. Wonderful, practical and realistic advice and discussions to help husbands and wives enjoy God's gift of sexual joy in marriage. Based on biblical principals and the author's own decades of helping couple's seeking help.

Celebrate God's Gift of Sex; A Tremendous Christian Resource (2008-12-09)

As a professional in the field I whole heartedly recommend to you Dr. Doug Rosenau's landmark work "A Celebration of Sex". While there are a number of books written on the subject of sexuality from a Christian perspective, there are very few that address the subject with the level of insight, clinical accuracy, and Biblical soundness as Dr. Rosenau's work. If you struggle with sexual difficulties in your marriage, are on the path of recovery from sexual abuse/ rape, or just could use some good, Godly, information about the sexual part of your life: THIS BOOK will HELP you. Doug is not only a tremendous author and skilled Christian Sex Therapist, but a quality man of integrity as well. You can also find resources at [...]

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